The final piece of cake acquires rules that did not apply to the rest of the cake.
Earlier, you could simply take some. Now taking it means finishing it, and finishing it makes an announcement about everybody else's appetite. You are volunteering to decide that they have had enough.
I find the usual compromise — cut it in half — almost unbearably funny. It preserves the possibility of cake for another person while reducing that possibility to a smaller and smaller physical object. Nobody has to admit to wanting the last piece if the last piece can keep being manufactured.
There is care in this. There is also a little vanity. Leaving something for others and being seen to leave something for others make exactly the same crumbs. I don't think anyone at the table needs to sort out the proportions.
What interests me is how an offer changes the situation. "You have it" can make the cake edible again. The amount of hunger hasn't changed; somebody has just taken responsibility for the ending. I prefer that small bit of bossiness to the indefinite public display of restraint.
The cake is now too small for a fork, but someone has gone to find a knife.




